Has dating left you feeling exhausted?

Are you sick of wasting time on the wrong people?

Are you ready to stop repeating old patterns? To enjoy dating again?

In just 8 weeks, our comprehensive virtual Break the Pattern Bootcamp uses proven science to teach you how to:

Meet the right people (without the apps!)

Make dating fun again

Avoid past pitfalls

Get to know people at a deeper level faster

Build relationships that last

You'll also notice improvements in other areas of your life because of a mindset shift and better interpersonal skills!

Save $75 if you sign up within one month of Valentine's Day! (March 14th)

Need one-on-one help? Upgrade to VIP for 3 individual coaching sessions - a $450 value for only $149!

Break the Pattern Bootcamp is for singles or people in early relationships of any gender identity or sexual orientation. Scroll down to see the curriculum and learn more!

What makes Break the Pattern Bootcamp different from other dating courses?

We focus on YOU

We take a deep dive into YOUR dating and relationship history to find YOUR patterns and issues to create real, lasting change.

Most other courses use a "one size fits all" approach and give you general advice without looking at what your specific problems are.

It's holistic and science-based

We cover all stages of the dating and relationship process and we use techniques that are backed by science.

Most other courses focus on one or two topics at most and many pull advice from pop culture or outdated dating "rules."

It's LIVE!

Emma will be teaching the course live and doing group coaching in every session so you can ask questions, seek advice, and get feedback. Want one-on-one attention? Upgrade to VIP!

Most other virtual courses are pre-recorded and have little to no access to the instructor.

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Meet your instructor

Emma Mankey Hidem is the creator and host of The Game Show of Love, an interactive dating game show, which she started in April 2020 as a pivot for her media production business, Sunnyside Productions, during covid-19.

The Game Show of Love created connection for people during an unprecedently lonely time and a community built up around the show. In her unexpected role of dating-show-community-manager, Emma hosted expert talks, lead discussions, and even ran a relationship book club.

As Emma dove further and further into the dating industry, she realized how much terrible advice was out there and she decided she needed to step up.

In her new capacity as a dating expert, she has been featured in Newsweek multiple times and on the nationally-syndicated tv show The List, to name a few.


What to expect:

  • Meeting virtually every Saturday for 8 weeks at 2pm Eastern Time

  • Each 90-minute session will include a presentation and time for questions/coaching

  • Can't make it live? Sessions will be recorded and available until one month after the bootcamp ends.

    *Why do we put an expiration date on content availability? To motivate you to actually do the work.*

  • You'll also have a little homework, making the average weekly commitment just 3 hours

  • There will be an online community where you can ask questions, seek advice, share successes or commiserate on the pains of dating & relationships



Week 1: The science of attachment

Using the research of scientists Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller, you'll learn about the different styles of human attachment, determine your own attachment style, and learn how to approach dating and relationships with other people based on how their attachment style interacts with yours.


Weeks 2-3: The "relationship audit"

It's not always fun to think about past relationships but we're going to face that fear and take a good, honest, and comprehensive look at your dating and relationship history so that we can identify patterns, learn from our mistakes, and use that knowledge to date in a more fun and effective way.


Week 4: Mindset & limiting beliefs

A positive mindset is important - it will improve your dating life (and your regular life) and help you navigate the harder times in dating & relationships. Cultivating a positive mindset is an active practice and we'll teach you science-based ways to do it. We'll also look at your limiting beliefs - things that might be holding you back.


Week 5: Core values & relationship goals

Reminding yourself of your core values helps you pursue the proper course of action in any area of your life. You'll reflect on your core values and use your relationship audit to get clear on what you want in a relationship, in a partner, and in how you yourself show up in dating & relationships.


Week 6: Meeting the right people (without dating apps!)

Dating apps became the default way to meet people during covid but swiping apps are inefficient, exhausting, and sometimes even traumatic because you're matching based on so little information. We'll talk about how to meet the right people IRL: where to look, how to approach people with confidence, tactics to reduce your fear of rejection, etc.


Week 7: So you're dating someone...

Week 7 focuses on the early stages of dating. We'll talk about how to ditch the "rules" and games in favor of being authentic, how to identify red flags early on, important conversations to have upfront, putting your best foot forward, and getting to know people at a deeper level more quickly.


Week 8: Building a relationship that lasts

Despite how Hollywood portrays relationships, they take a lot of work. Loving someone is an active and ever-evolving process, not a magical feeling. You'll learn how to keep the passion alive, not take your partner for granted, communicate effectively, and handle conflict in a healthy way.

Why become a founding member?

  • Live group coaching... every session: Because this is a beta, Emma will be teaching it live each week. Future Bootcamps will be made up of much more pre-recorded content. (Value $1800)

  • Lifetime access to our community: Founding members get lifetime access to our virtual community where you can seek advice, meet other singles (if you want to), and more! (Value $700)

  • Discounts and other rewards: Not only will future Bootcamps be more expensive, but founding Bootcamp members will be rewarded with discounts on future programs.

    • Know people who you think could benefit from this course? Earn cash for referrals!

    • Oh and you'll get cash back for providing feedback at the end of the course!


Want personalized one-on-one help with your dating problems? Sign up for VIP and you'll get 3 private sessions with Emma, plus other bonuses!

  • Session #1: We'll talk about the issues you are facing and your relationship goals so that you can maximize the Bootcamp

  • Session #2: Emma will help you with your relationship audit and/or review it with you to help you identify patterns.

  • Session #3: At the end of the course, Emma will review your worksheets and help you build a plan to find your perfect partner so that you have a proactive dating journey mapped out for yourself

  • Longer access to recordings: Session recordings will be available to VIPs for three months after the course ends and you will have lifetime access to recordings of your private coaching sessions.

  • Other bonus materials: You'll get a few special guides and have access to recordings of a few talks Emma hosted with other experts in the past.

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Rumi: Removing Your Internal Barriers to Love

June 07, 20232 min read

In honor of World Caring Day, I wanted to share this video about a quote I love from Rumi, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Because really, the things preventing most of us from finding love are inside of us and we will not find love until we learn to leave our baggage at the door. Self-care starts with removing your internal barriers to love and joy.


VIDEO TRANSCRIPT: Today, I want to introduce you to a quote from Rumi that I think is both important and on point. The quote is, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

We all develop behaviors and coping mechanisms based on our experiences in childhood. Unfortunately, some of these things are counter-intuitive to us having healthy interpersonal relationships in adulthood. Maybe you run away when things get too serious. Maybe you frantically cling to people if you feel them pulling away. Maybe you don’t take initiative out of fear of failure or rejection. These are just a few of the kinds of behaviors that stand in the way of us finding love and particularly of us finding love with the right people.

This is why self-improvement is so important and why it unfortunately can be a long journey. This is part of why I created the Break the Pattern Bootcamp - because my journey took years of therapy, tons of self-help books, research, classes, etc. and I want to help other people shorten their journeys. I think this quote exemplifies what the bootcamp is all about: because we're about finding patterns in your behaviors and your dating history that aren’t serving you and breaking them. Sometimes you just need outside eyes to help you find the barriers you might not realize are there. These internal barriers not only hurt your chances at finding and sustaining love in general but they can also push you toward people who are wrong for you.

I’ll talk a bit more about attachment science in future videos and we go into it in-depth in the bootcamp, but people with an insecure attachment style are often drawn to people who are wrong for them. That's because it is familiar and it reinforces the insecure narrative. So if you think you’re ready to start the journey of breaking down your own barriers, reach out to me and we can talk about whether or not the Break the Pattern Bootcamp might be a right fit for you.


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