Are you sick of wasting time on the wrong people?
Are you ready to stop repeating old patterns? To enjoy dating again?
In just 8 weeks, our comprehensive virtual Break the Pattern Bootcamp uses proven science to teach you how to:
Meet the right people (without the apps!)
Make dating fun again
Avoid past pitfalls
Get to know people at a deeper level faster
Build relationships that last
You'll also notice improvements in other areas of your life because of a mindset shift and better interpersonal skills!
Save $75 if you sign up within one month of Valentine's Day! (March 14th)
Need one-on-one help? Upgrade to VIP for 3 individual coaching sessions - a $450 value for only $149!
We take a deep dive into YOUR dating and relationship history to find YOUR patterns and issues to create real, lasting change.
Most other courses use a "one size fits all" approach and give you general advice without looking at what your specific problems are.
We cover all stages of the dating and relationship process and we use techniques that are backed by science.
Most other courses focus on one or two topics at most and many pull advice from pop culture or outdated dating "rules."
Emma will be teaching the course live and doing group coaching in every session so you can ask questions, seek advice, and get feedback. Want one-on-one attention? Upgrade to VIP!
Most other virtual courses are pre-recorded and have little to no access to the instructor.
Emma Mankey Hidem is the creator and host of The Game Show of Love, an interactive dating game show, which she started in April 2020 as a pivot for her media production business, Sunnyside Productions, during covid-19.
The Game Show of Love created connection for people during an unprecedently lonely time and a community built up around the show. In her unexpected role of dating-show-community-manager, Emma hosted expert talks, lead discussions, and even ran a relationship book club.
As Emma dove further and further into the dating industry, she realized how much terrible advice was out there and she decided she needed to step up.
In her new capacity as a dating expert, she has been featured in Newsweek multiple times and on the nationally-syndicated tv show The List, to name a few.
Meeting virtually every Saturday for 8 weeks at 2pm Eastern Time
Each 90-minute session will include a presentation and time for questions/coaching
Can't make it live? Sessions will be recorded and available until one month after the bootcamp ends.
*Why do we put an expiration date on content availability? To motivate you to actually do the work.*
You'll also have a little homework, making the average weekly commitment just 3 hours
There will be an online community where you can ask questions, seek advice, share successes or commiserate on the pains of dating & relationships
Week 1: The science of attachment
Using the research of scientists Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller, you'll learn about the different styles of human attachment, determine your own attachment style, and learn how to approach dating and relationships with other people based on how their attachment style interacts with yours.
Weeks 2-3: The "relationship audit"
It's not always fun to think about past relationships but we're going to face that fear and take a good, honest, and comprehensive look at your dating and relationship history so that we can identify patterns, learn from our mistakes, and use that knowledge to date in a more fun and effective way.
Week 4: Mindset & limiting beliefs
A positive mindset is important - it will improve your dating life (and your regular life) and help you navigate the harder times in dating & relationships. Cultivating a positive mindset is an active practice and we'll teach you science-based ways to do it. We'll also look at your limiting beliefs - things that might be holding you back.
Week 5: Core values & relationship goals
Reminding yourself of your core values helps you pursue the proper course of action in any area of your life. You'll reflect on your core values and use your relationship audit to get clear on what you want in a relationship, in a partner, and in how you yourself show up in dating & relationships.
Week 6: Meeting the right people (without dating apps!)
Dating apps became the default way to meet people during covid but swiping apps are inefficient, exhausting, and sometimes even traumatic because you're matching based on so little information. We'll talk about how to meet the right people IRL: where to look, how to approach people with confidence, tactics to reduce your fear of rejection, etc.
Week 7: So you're dating someone...
Week 7 focuses on the early stages of dating. We'll talk about how to ditch the "rules" and games in favor of being authentic, how to identify red flags early on, important conversations to have upfront, putting your best foot forward, and getting to know people at a deeper level more quickly.
Week 8: Building a relationship that lasts
Despite how Hollywood portrays relationships, they take a lot of work. Loving someone is an active and ever-evolving process, not a magical feeling. You'll learn how to keep the passion alive, not take your partner for granted, communicate effectively, and handle conflict in a healthy way.
Live group coaching... every session: Because this is a beta, Emma will be teaching it live each week. Future Bootcamps will be made up of much more pre-recorded content. (Value $1800)
Lifetime access to our community: Founding members get lifetime access to our virtual community where you can seek advice, meet other singles (if you want to), and more! (Value $700)
Discounts and other rewards: Not only will future Bootcamps be more expensive, but founding Bootcamp members will be rewarded with discounts on future programs.
Know people who you think could benefit from this course? Earn cash for referrals!
Oh and you'll get cash back for providing feedback at the end of the course!
Want personalized one-on-one help with your dating problems? Sign up for VIP and you'll get 3 private sessions with Emma, plus other bonuses!
Session #1: We'll talk about the issues you are facing and your relationship goals so that you can maximize the Bootcamp
Session #2: Emma will help you with your relationship audit and/or review it with you to help you identify patterns.
Session #3: At the end of the course, Emma will review your worksheets and help you build a plan to find your perfect partner so that you have a proactive dating journey mapped out for yourself
Longer access to recordings: Session recordings will be available to VIPs for three months after the course ends and you will have lifetime access to recordings of your private coaching sessions.
Other bonus materials: You'll get a few special guides and have access to recordings of a few talks Emma hosted with other experts in the past.
Check out our blog or social media for dating & relationship advice!
One of the key things that makes our Break the Pattern Bootcamp different is that we don't just give general advice - we dig into YOUR dating life and YOUR personality to find the pain points that are specific to you. Now, I know that diving into your past can be scary or even in some cases a little traumatic. But digging into your past with intention can help improve your future. Check out this video where I talk about the benefits of reflection, forgiveness, and letting go of baggage.
VIDEO TRANSCRIPT: Hi everyone, today I want to talk about something that’s tough for most of us: looking back at your past. The core piece of the Break the Pattern Bootcamp is what I call the “relationship audit”-you go back through your past relationships and answer a series of questions about each of them and then I help you identify patterns so that you can ditch what isn’t serving you and put more effort into what is.
Now, I get that looking back at past relationships is often not fun. It can even be traumatic for many of us. We all have various levels of baggage. But the good news is: the past is the past. It is done. You cannot change it, for better or worse, so you shouldn’t dwell, you must move on.
Looking at your past with intention however, is different than dwelling and can actually help you move on. First of all, it’s how we learn from our mistakes. Secondly, it’s very easy to only remember the bad after the relationship ends but if you take time to remember the good, you will feel better.
That kind of negative-only mental filtering helps contribute to depression and anxiety and you may find that focusing on the positives of the relationships helps you be less angry at them and, probably, less angry at yourself since we often tend to beat ourselves up for our past choices and partners. Just remember: you were with that person for at least one if not hopefully more reasons, so there had to be some good.
And it can actually be healing–you can view it as a way of letting go. You can look at each relationship and say, “this chapter in my life is closed. I will learn from the bad, take the good with me, and use that knowledge to live my best life in this present moment.”
Another important thing to keep in mind is that you are most likely an ex that some people don’t want to think about, too. You can blame all of your past relationship problems on your partners, or you can dig deep and acknowledge the ways in which you may not have been perfect either.
I’m not saying, “blame yourself” or “you suck.” You were, most likely, doing the best you could at the time with the tools you’d been given. This is a concept I learned in therapy. The thing is, most people are usually doing the best they can with the tools they’ve been given, including your exes. This is a freeing concept because it makes forgiveness easier, and, there’s a great quote you may be familiar with: "resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” Forgiveness is freeing and this concept of doing your best with the tools you’ve been given also makes it easier for you to forgive yourself for your own past mistakes.
And of course, I’m not excusing bad behavior or saying it should be tolerated. It may not be someone’s fault that they developed a crappy set of tools from their early life experiences, but it IS their fault if they don’t do anything to try to fix it. And maybe your ex hasn’t changed at all, but that’s on them. They’re not your problem anymore.
So, if you look back at your past relationships with honesty and openness, you just might find that your baggage has gotten a little lighter.
COVER PHOTO CREDIT: Ezequiel Garrido